Ditch the Fear, Do the Thing and Feel So Much Better!

Fear holds us back from the life we deserve.

It’s an instinctive emotion, designed to keep us safe, but boy does it send us mixed messages in today’s fast-paces and complex world.

And as my coaching and Inner Circle groups grow, I can see common threads emerging which prevent you from achieving your goals. And Fear is one of the biggies…!

I totally get it! Online business can be a scary place. But I promise you it’s nowhere near as bad as you think.

What’s that old acronym?

F.E.A.R.

  • False
  • Expectations
  • Appearing
  • Real

Take my parachute jumping for example…

I overcame my fear to make a charity parachute jump

When I made my first parachute jump, I was terrified. I’d just started a new job and a bunch of guys were doing it and one had to pull out at the last moment due to injury.

In a moment of bravado, I had said in the staff canteen that it was a shame I hadn’t had any training or I would have happily stepped in [or out, as it happened..] to make up the numbers. The event was the upcoming weekend and this was a Thursday.

The other guys said it wouldn’t be an issue, they would make sure I got the training and a waiver to sign was in front of my face quicker than, well, than a plummeting Scotsman hopelessly out of his depth.

So off we went on the Saturday morning and enroute to the airfield, we discovered that a young woman had been killed at the same venue the previous month doing the exact same thing as us. She landed on the spinning rotors of a helicopter. We were assured that ‘things were different’ now and that could ‘never’ happen again.

To cut a long story short, my fear was real and on the actual jump, I was scared witless. It’s only when you are staring out of a tiny hole in a perfectly-serviceable aircraft at a patchwork of even smaller fields and towns far below and someone is screaming at you to jump out [the plane was small and incredibly noisy], that you understand what real fear is.

But guess what? Once I was actually airborne, I totally loved it! And the second I hit the ground, in a safely controlled manner, I wanted to go back up and do it all again.

And since that day, I have done lots of things that might sound scary to some. Driven racing cars, hitchhiked through LA, hidden from rebel bandits in a South American jungle, borrowed a million bucks to start a health business and become a published author.

All of which I probably wouldn’t have considered prior to my sky-diving due to being a slave to fear.

Stop being a slave to fear

Now very little scares me, apart from all the usual ‘family-type’ things.

And my life is far richer for that. In so many different ways.

So my message today is to go out there, confront your fears and DO THE THING…!

Here’s some additional inspiration from the amazing Susan Jeffers PhD from her best-seller, ‘Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway

The Five Truths About Fear
by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.


FEAR TRUTH #1

The fear will never go away as long as you continue to grow!
Every time you take a step into the unknown, you experience fear. There is no point in saying, “When I am no longer afraid, then I will do it.” You’ll be waiting for a long time. The fear is part of the package.

FEAR TRUTH #2

The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and…do it!
When you do it often enough, you will no longer be afraid in that particular situation. You will have faced the unknown and you will have handled it. Then new challenges await you, which certainly add to the excitement in living.

FEAR TRUTH #3

The only way to feel better about yourself is to go out and…do it!
With each little step you take into unknown territory, a pattern of strength develops. You begin feeling stronger and stronger and stronger.

FEAR TRUTH #4

Not only are you afraid when facing the unknown, so is everyone else!
This should be a relief. You are not the only one out there feeling fear. Everyone feels fear when taking a step into the unknown. Yes, all those people who have succeeded in doing what they have wanted to do in life have felt the fear – and did it anyway. So can you!

FEAR TRUTH #5

Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the bigger underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness!
This is the one truth that some people have difficulty understanding. When you push through the fear, you will feel such a sense of relief as your feeling of helplessness subsides. You will wonder why you did not take action sooner. You will become more and more aware that you can truly handle anything that life hands you.

To Your Success!

Robin